Rantings of a Sane Woman! (Episode 2)
I've been single for over five years--by choice mind you--and that's in ever aspect of the word "single"...I don't sleep around, momma didn't raise no hoe! :0)
But when I finally met someone I liked, he's 12 years my junior. Then when I got over that "hump", I find out he's moving two hours away. Now some people may think that's nothing, but I'm not traveling two hours to be with someone...I'm just not. That's how I once felt...each day I see him, I'm beginning to think, "Two hours is not that far." But since I've told him I don't believe in long distance relationships--which is the same time he was saying he "tried" the long distance relationship in the past and--and that's when I cut him off and said I don't believe in them...I may have screwed myself with that one...he might have said,
"I've tired long distance relationships in the past and it worked out wonderfully! "or he might have said,
"I've tired long distance relationships in the past and they don't work for me!"Which is want I inferred before allowing him to finish. But as I said, since telling him I don't believe in long distance relationships, he's been somewhat "standoffish". But then he'll forget he's supposed to be standoffish and begin to flirt...heavily--Oh wait! That was me! I was talking about me... He never stopped flirting...but it was I who began acting as if he didn't exist, he questioned me on it...we talked...it was a nice talk...he's so mature for his age...I'm not just saying that because I like him, but his mannerisms reflect that of a much older, much more mature man...everyone says the same...and to add he doesn't look his age, not implying he looks "old", because he doesn't, just older...[exhaling] I really like him... Now that I have these feelings for him again, I think it's too late...even if it weren't, I would only see him once a week anyway, but I'm a faithful woman (I've been told a little too faithful...if there's such a thing) and I know the old saying, "What you don't know won't hurt you." (speaking of his being 2 hrs out), but my thing is, what I "think" will... I've dropped hints--as recent as today, that I wouldn't mind giving it a try, but he appears disinterested...that or perhaps he's a realist (which is my usual stance.) Perhaps he feels he too may be wondering about me and what I was doing--which would be nothing, but he wouldn't know that--In fact, I don't think I've dated a man that truly felt I was faithful. People--No, men! Men seem to feel if a woman is attractive...extremely attractive (that's me tooting my own horn) that she can't possibly be with just one person....and that isn't true...I'm the epitome of the word "faithful". I don't cheat, period. I just don't...[exhaling] I really like him... ...well I feel...well I really don't know how I feel--exposed! That's how I feel, exposed...but anywho, thanks for listening--well, reading the rantings of a sane woman!
posted by Ms. Mika @ 11:08 AM
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Exposed - that's a good word to describe your feelings!
The way I see it, it's like a reciprocal behavior: if I open up, then that will lead you to open up, etc. If no one takes the lead, then we just sit there and nothing comes of it.
-BUT- it can be scary to do that, especially (in your case) over distances. I know I'd rather have things stay the way they are (status quo type, that's me! :)
To initiate something of value, sometimes we have to change - or be changed.
Enough of my rantings (this could be Episode III!)
Hi, there Ms. Mika, you have a very interesting relationship quandary there. I've been married for 17 yrs so I can't comment. Been too long since I dated. LOL But what I wanted to ask is whether you've considered writing chick-lit?
Ok, this is the point where I pick up the dunce hat and place ever so gently atop my head; what's “chick-lit”? Is that Romance novels (chick literature) I dunno.
I thought you might ask. Haha! It is a sub-genre of romance and/or women's fiction. I don't write it but it is very popular. Bridget Jones Diary was the very first chick-lit book. Here is part of a definition from this website http://www.chicklitbooks.com/
"...chick lit is a genre comprised of books that are mainly written by women for women. The books range from having main characters in their early 20's to their late 60's. There is usually a personal, light, and humorous tone to the books. Sometimes they are written in first-person narrative; other time they are written from multiple viewpoints. The plots usually consist of women experiencing usual life issues, such as love, marriage, dating, relationships, friendships, roommates, corporate environments, weight issues, addiction, and much more.
So how does that differ from regular women's fiction, you might be wondering? Well, it's all in the tone. Chick lit is told in a more confiding, personal tone. It's like having a best friend tell you about her life. Or watching various characters go through things that you have gone through yourself, or witnessed others going through. Humor is a strong point in chick lit, too. Nearly every chick lit book I have read has had some type of humor in it. THAT is what really separates chick lit from regular women's fiction. "
And here is another site http://www.chicklitwriters.com/
The chick lit chapter of RWA.
how can i get in contact with you ? I know someone that you know & I just need to know something , please do not take this as some crazy person writing to be funny , I am very serious , please get back to me asap please it is very inportant to me .
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